"SODAS" is a problem solving concept that we learned from Nicholeen Peck at a homeschool conference a few years ago. We were so impressed with her message that I soon after purchased her "Teaching Self Government" seminar on CD and even e-mailed her directly for specific problems. Her methods proved to work successfully in our home - that is as long as us parents were consistent (honestly, that is the hardest part).
I suppose I could write some sort of a proof to blame our growing list of behavior problems on all the changes we've experienced in the last year but I don't have time for that. Instead I'll share our attempt at solving them.
Besides working on the 4 basic skills , we set up a little snack time party complete with bubble blowing, lime tortilla chips, Jones Sodas and a poster to explain "SODAS". Here's an example of how it works(ed):
Situation - "I do not want to read and report on a boring article from the homeschool binder"
Options - "I could sit on the couch and complain about it, or I could just do it"
Disadvantages - "If I sit on the couch all day and complain about it I'll miss out on snack time and free play with my brothers, it would be a really boring day and I'd still have to complete the assignment tomorrow"
Advantages - "If I don't do it I won't be tortured by the boring article and my hand won't ache from answering all the questions but if I do do it I might learn something interesting about the world and even better I could have more time to play"
Solution - day #1 "I don't care if I sit on the couch all day without snack or free play"
day #2 "I guess I should do it really quickly"
I am happy to report that the assignment was finished before breakfast without complaint.
Thanks Nicholeen!



